بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
Shaykh Ahmad Bazmool may Allah preserve him was asked:
We
request from you some guidance for the women regarding spreading the
salafi da'wah and also nurturing and educating the children upon this
correct manhaj.
"There is no doubt that the mother is a teacher within the house and an educator to her child, so it is upon her first and foremost to obtain knowledge of the religion and to also understand from the lessons of the scholars and their books what the methodology of the salaf is.
Then
afterwards, teach and educate her children upon this. For indeed in
this is a great good -if Allah the Exalted wills. Also what is upon the
mother to know regarding the child she is nurturing upon the salafi
manhaj- and this is something the father should know as well- is that
this young boy or young girl, if they are in fact nurtured upon the
salafi manhaj and upon righteous deeds, then every righteous good deed
they perform, you will have a reward of the like without that decreasing
from their reward any.
Indeed the prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "Whoever
calls to something good they will have the like of the reward of
whoever follows them in that good and this will not decrease from their
reward any".
He also said, "The one who shows another to good, will have the likes of the reward of the one who did the action".
So
it is upon the mother to be diligent in teaching her children good and
that she must know that if her son or daughter spreads this good, the
good from your daughter (or son), and the recipient of that knowledge
will also benefit you.
Also the prophet Salla Allahu Alayhi Wa Sallam said, "All of you are shepherds and all of you are responsible for your flock."
Then he said, "And the woman is like a Shepherd over her home and she is responsible for her flock".
You find some women who say: "I have nothing to do with this, this is the fathers responsibility, I'm not teaching the child."
This
is an error because the messenger (Salla Allahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) is
saying to you if you are able and qualified to teach the true
methodology or to direct to the true methodology, he is saying you are
responsible. What did you do regarding your child? You saw him or her
listening to falsehood or doing acts of disobedience and you did not
command them with the good or forbid them from evil.
Furthermore
it was mentioned in the biography of Imam Ash Shaafi'ee (may Allah have
mercy upon him), that from those who played a great role in nurturing
him upon knowledge and upon the correct methodology was his mother.
She used to say to him, "Do not go to Hafs because he is an innovator,"
and she would forbid him from going to him. So my advice to the mothers
first and foremost is to obtain knowledge of the religion ('ilm
Ash-Shar'ee). What is the meaning of obtaining knowledge of the
religion? It does not mean that you must learn every aspect of knowledge
and that you be a student of knowledge or a scholar, because you have
some women who say, "I'm not able to do that".
We
say to you: this is not what is meant, rather what is meant is that you
obtain the knowledge of the religion which you are in need of and what
you need to teach your children. This is something easy and not hard.
Perhaps you sit and waste time speaking to other sisters and you waste
your time in things that have no benefit and going out with sisters and
visiting relatives and sometimes this occurs with the passing of days,
nights and sometimes weeks wasting this time. Could you not spend an
hour or half hour sitting with your child teaching them?
You
teach them, then see how they respond, then teach them and then see how
they respond and so on and so forth. This can occur in minutes. How
many times do children grow up and remember the advice of their mother
and father and they say, "They taught me this or that" and it is useful
in sticky situations. So no doubt, the mother and father are from the
most caring people that their child obtains what is good. So my advice
to them is to first learn, then act upon what they know because the
parent is also an example. They should not say, "O my child do not
listen to music then they themselves go and listen to it". Do not say to
them that the scholars say that anaasheed (Islamic songs) are
impermissible but then you go and listen to anaasheed. So she must be an
example and act (according to what she knows) then she teaches her
child and practices this.
I
also advise her that she uses gentleness and softness with her child
and let the child know that she loves him or her. The affair should not
be that she beats them or pushes them or speak harshly to them, except
out of what necessity requires. So gentleness and showing her child(ren)
she loves them will cause the child to follow their mother.
Translated by Anwar Wright
27 Jumaad al Oolaa 1434April 8th 2013
Blessed city of Makkah
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